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First came carriage, then came marriage
Lily recently picked up our wedding photo.
Of course, the first thing she wanted to know was "Why was Creed at your wedding?''.
Sure enough, there was her older brother Creed, when he was 1 1/2, sitting there on the steps at the altar with a wedding ring in his mouth.
[As an aside, this photo is one of the few actual records we have that this event even happened. The video was overdubbed by a football game. I don't watch football. That one is easy to figure out.]
I had to do a sudden prioritization. Which is the more important lesson for my daughter? That lying is bad? Or that having a child before you get married is bad?
"What now?'' I asked her.
"Why is Creed there?'' she wanted to know.
"He just pops up everywhere, doesn't he?'' I replied. "I don't remember.''
She's only 5. She's not ready for a detailed version of the story. But I'm not going to be one of those moms who sets aside all the embarrassing family secrets and then when she's 13, I say, "Lily, it's time for a chat.''
I find it's better if you make kids think they've always known Embarrassing Family Secret XYZ. And by the time they're ready to ask for details, all they'll have to do is look it up on a blog somewhere.
Speaking of which, I decided to check to see if Creed knows about this blog yet. I've revealed a lot of his personal information, especially matters about his increasingly large Permanent File at school. So last night I asked him, "Creed, do you know what a blog is?''
He's in sixth grade. I figured he'd know.
"Blog? B-L-O-G?'' he asked. "I've heard you guys say that word a lot.''
OK, good enough. He has no idea.
Here's this week's Totally Weird Comment from Lily. We were driving past the police station in Fort Lauderdale, and she asked, "If I killed someone, would you take me to jail?'' "Who are you going to kill?'' I inquired. "A bird,'' she answered.
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Comments
I find nothing wrong with telling your daughter that you got married after Creed was born. It is very doubtful that a child will have a problem with it. It does sound, though, that you may have a problem with the fact you were married after your son was born, no?
Posted by: OKbyme | April 18, 2007 6:23 PM