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I want a "push present," retroactively!
Do women deserve a fancy gift for pushing out their babies?
An increasing number of moms appear to be saying "Yes!" According to the New York Times, husbands are getting their wives extravagant gifts, or "push presents," after they give birth, including art work and jewelry.
It seems to be a combination of a new awareness among men about the physical taxation of bearing a child and a new assertivenes among moms about getting the things they want.
"You have to keep mama happy," one dad said in the story.
Dads: Did you buy your wife a gift after she gave birth? And moms: Do you think you deserve a lavish present, or are your children reward enough (yeah, right)?
Gretchen Day-Bryant has a son in high school and a daughter in middle school. She’s lived to tell about the struggles of juggling little kids and work...
Joy Oglesby has an infant daughter and a sister 13 years her junior, whom she babies to the now-adult...
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Rafael Olmeda and his wife welcomed their first son in Feb. 2009, and he's helping raise two teenage stepdaughters...
Lois Solomon lives in Boca Raton with her husband and three daughters...
Anne Vasquez is the Online Editor in charge of overseeing SunSentinel.com. She is the mother of a 5-year-old boy and a newborn daughter.
Georgia East is the parent of a five-year-old girl, who came into the world weighing 1 pound, 13 ounces...
Brittany Wallman is the mother of Creed, 13, and Lily, 6, and is married...
Chris Tiedje is the Social Media Coordinator, and father of two boys and a girl all under the age of seven.
Comments
I just hate that term "push present". It is very tacky. However, I think a gift from the husband should be given. It is a thoughtful way of saying congratulations on becoming a mother. The gift doesn't have to be fancy. The gesture shouldn't be tainted. Terms like "push present" are degrading.
Posted by: Boca | December 11, 2007 1:24 PM
I bought my wife a present and gave it to her the day we came home with our child. It was just my way of telling her that I loved her, and our new baby. I didn't even know that had a name (push present) for such a thing. I just thought I was being considerate.
Posted by: JohnD | December 11, 2007 1:26 PM
I agree that "push present" is not a good term for this gift. It's catchy, but it's also tacky. Can you think of a better expression?
Posted by: Lois | December 11, 2007 3:43 PM
I call mine my "I got cut open" present (had a c-section) or, when feeling blue, my "I sacrificed my body for my son" present. So yes, I think it's a great idea. Although Dads are way more involved than they used to be and pregnancy is hard on them too, the moms still make most of the sacrifice. It's nice that our husbands recognize it.
Posted by: Amy | December 11, 2007 5:59 PM
Agreed with Boca
Posted by: PHP Encoder | December 13, 2007 3:05 AM
I agree that the term is tacky and I even dislike that this even has a name given to it. Now the inevitable exploitation by jewellery stores (and others) will cheapen what is meant to be a personal expression of gratitude.
Soon there'll be a minimum dollar value attached, where those who dont exceed it dont really love their partner (only kidding... sort of)
Posted by: EaglesFan | April 1, 2008 3:10 PM