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Step-father to a Borg

I started calling my older step-daughter “Seven” a few months ago.

In the Star Trek universe, Seven-of-Nine (called Seven by her crewmates on the starship Voyager), was a human who was assimilated by a race of cyborgs and spent most of her life connected to them through cybernetic implants. I picture my kid with a cell phone on one ear and an I-Pod in the other while holding a digital camera to take a picture of herself, or maybe a video of her declaring: “Actual human contact is irrelevant. Resistance is futile.”

What I wouldn’t give to unplug all the gadgets, hide the batteries and try to engage her in an honest-to-goodness, face-to-face conversation.

But then I remember.

I remember my first home computer, and the hours I’d spend on it trying my hand at programming (I was no darned good). I remember handheld football games from Coleco. I remember video games that left me glued to the TV set seemingly for days at a time, with occasional breaks for food and such. Oh sure, I balanced it by cracking open my books to do my homework. But the point is the same. And when I started talking to my high school friends on the phone, it did seem for a while that I was spending an awful lot of time doing it.

Maybe the kid’s reliance on gizmos catches my attention because I didn’t see her phase into it one gadget at a time. Maybe I’m right to sound the alarm that over-reliance on these things is a tad anti-social and, occasionally, a little more than annoying. Maybe I am, as they say, pointing three fingers at myself whenever I point a finger at the kid for doing pretty much the same thing I did at her age.

Or maybe it’s not such a big deal after all.

Maybe resistance really is futile.

POSTED IN: Rafael Olmeda (31), Step-parenting (28), Teen (40)

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Yes, we did the same things when we were teens. Granted, they have more gizmos to hide behind today.

Indeed, resistance is futile. This too shall pass. Despite these words of wisdom, we still occasionally blow up on our teenagers. Hmmm... sound familiar? We're more like our teenagers than we thought. It's our own advice we can't even take!

I agree with Elliott. With that said, I think it's ok to have certain times when gadgets are off-limits. I was out to dinner w/my brother and his family the other night. He spent the entire time texting with his friends (my brother's 35). I absolutely said something to him because he wasn't paying attention to the rest of the group at the table - it was just plain rude. While I know my kids will get into gadgets some day (they're now 2 and not yet born), I will try very hard to make them put them away when we're together in family situations i.e., at the dinner table. Who knows what we'll have in 10 years or so??

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