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A little boy who became a little girl


Two weeks ago, a mother told the Broward County Commission that when her son was two, he started acting like a girl. The child is 7 now, and they've been raising him as a daughter.

The mom showed a photo, and said her child was diagnosed with a gender disorder at age 3.bluepinkdoor.jpg

She was speaking about this because the county was passing a law giving protection against discrimination to transgender people.

I am really torn by this. My heart bleeds for this little child. But I can't help but think a parent should not make a decision that profound when the child is that young.

I don't know much about gender disorders, and I would imagine there's a lot of debate out there in the medical world about it. It just seems possible that the little boy was just playing around. I know I had a very long tomboy phase where I refused to wear skirts or dresses and hated girly stuff. I even had a pair of very boyish shoes I was quite proud of. Nothing with a pointed toe was coming near me.

Thank God my mother did not decide to take me to a therapist -- no telling what I would have said in there.

I know a little boy who wears his sisters' dresses. I'll bet it's not uncommon. Maybe if his mom fed that desire, he'd become even more girly. I don't know. Maybe I'm exhibiting the ignorance of the masses on this. I know they say the suicide rate for transgender kids is really high. Maybe it's because they're forced to remain a gender they don't want to be.

When this kid the County Commission was told about was two and the mom would say, "good boy,'' he would respond with "no, mommy, good girl!'' Then he started wanting to leave the house with a wig on. He stole his mom's makeup, he wanted his fingernails painted every day.

I just don't know what to think about this, except to be heartbroken.

To summarize the debate on this: Is your true self in your body, or in your mind? And even if it's in your mind, is the mind of a 3-year-old capable of knowing what it ultimately wants to be?

Keep reading for the full text of her testimony. It's captivating, really.

And here is a website with more information:

Family Acceptance Project


FROM THE FLOOR: Hi. Thank you. I'm here as a

mom today to speak on behalf of my child that is

too young to speak for herself, and I'll put her

picture up here so you all can see. I don't know,

pass it around or whatever you have to do. Seven

years ago I gave birth to my fourth child, a

beautiful baby boy who we named Jared. Since I

already had a four-year-old daughter and twin

two-year-old boys, he completed our family and

brought so much joy into our lives. However, when

Jarred was two and began to form a little

personality. It was apparent he was nothing like

his older brothers. He was attracted to all

things girly andI when I was praise him: Good

boy, he would always correct me and say: No,

mommy, good girl. At first we thought nothing of

it but when we kept insisting to leave the house

in a wig, we knew it was more than a passing

phase. By the time Jarred was three, he was

diagnosed as gender disorder. Jarred continued to

act just like a girl. He was obsessed with all

things bar be, stole my makeup and wanted his

nails painted every day and he never went anywhere

without his be loved mermaid dolls. Even his in

demeanor was delicate, graceful. As I continued

to learn about gender identity disorder, I was

horrified at what I did learn. 50 percent of

trans kids will attempt suicide at least once.

They are depressed, confused, and hate themselves

and their bodies. My husband and I were

determined that our child was not going to be

another static. We never encouraged this belabor

but instead allowed him to be true to himself. By

the age of five, my beautiful baby boy Jarred

became my gorgeous daughter Jarren. A simple

pronoun change, a change of clothes, and some hair

growth was all that it took. Today at the age of

seven, Jarren is a happy, popular well adjusted

little girl who most importantly loves herself.

Little does she know the rough journey ahead of

her but you all know what it means to be

transgender in today's world and as a mom I fear

what she may face. Jarren deserves a fair chance

to lead her life as she believes and be given the

same opportunity as her peers, and I'm happy to

see that change is on the way. She recently told

me that the happiest day of her life was when she

found out she was transgender. May she always

feel this way, always feel good about herself, and

I thank you very much.

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Gretchen Day-Bryant has a son in high school and a daughter in middle school. She’s lived to tell about the struggles of juggling little kids and work.
Joy Oglesby has a preschooler...
Cindy Kent Fort Lauderdale mother of three. Her kids span in ages from teenager to 20s.
Rafael Olmeda and his wife welcomed their first son in Feb. 2009, and he's helping raise two teenage stepdaughters.
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Georgia East is the parent of a five-year-old girl, who came into the world weighing 1 pound, 13 ounces.
Brittany Wallman is the mother of Creed, 15, and Lily, 7, and is married to a journalist, Bob Norman. She covers Broward County government, which is filled with almost as much drama as the Norman household. Almost.
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