What(ah) language do steps speak?
Families have their own rhythm, their own cadences. They can speak to each other in ways outsiders can’t really relate.
When an outsider becomes a family member, as I did eight months ago, he quickly learns that the family language only bears a passing resemblance to his own.
I knock on the older girl’s bedroom door.
“What?” she calls out. It’s an impolite, get-lost kind of yell to my ears, regardless of whether she intends it to sound that way.
“Try again!” I yell through the door.
“Yes?” she replies, this time striking a you’ve-reached-Kay-how-may-I-help-you? tone.
That's more like it. The first response sounds like I have some nerve knocking on the door. The second strikes me as more polite. I'm happy.
The next morning, I knock on the younger girl’s door.
“What-ah?” she yells. When did the word “what” gain that extra syllable, anyway? “What-ah?” Sometimes-ah sounds-ah like you hear those-ah, old-time preachers-ah.
“Hey, I’m just checking to make sure you’re awake and getting ready for school. I don’t deserve the attitude.”
“I’m not giving you attitude!”
I love that. I get the attitude and the denial.
What I don’t get is that she’s telling me the absolute truth. She really doesn’t mean to be giving me attitude. Just like I don’t mean to sound like a holier-than-thou persnickety know-it-all who’s constantly correcting them.
They would know that if they spoke my language, and maybe I’ll go a little easier on them when I learn their language a little bit better. The good part? They’re comfortable enough with me that when they speak to me, it’s in their language.
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