Good question.
I experience that it's almost not possible, because working moms keep telling me their life is much harder and much more complicated.
They're backed up by the feminist movement, who see working moms as the result of their efforts to open up opportunities for women.

But I'm a mom with a degree. I'm a stay at home mom by choice. And I see choice as real emancipation.

In The Netherlands and America women are paid an average of almost 24% less than men. So who's emancipated at work?

I'm a mom of 6. 4 kids are autistic. My daily job is more complicated than someone who has got the same degree and works for payment. I get no money for it, no praise, and at times I struggle with the emotional problems caused by the lack of rewarding moments, the lack of distractions and the unability to leave my job.
I'm not standing still in the development of my identity, as I've been told by working moms.
I've learned to value small things. Mainly human, like smiles, and nature, like the seasons in my garden. And I've learned a lot about how other people are. Added to it that I've got time to keep up with the developments in my profession and I'm advicing those who work and need info.

We're all sides of a coin, aren't we?
Problem is we're always at the bottom, but we have a face too.

I have to agree with Hip Mom: it's not a contest! Come on ladies, if we're truly liberated we should be liberated enough to make our own choice about whether we work at home or in paid employment without being condemned by those who make other choices. CHOICE! That's what liberation procures for us. Why on earth should we want to narrow it down and choke it off?
Mel Menzies, author of the novel, A Painful Post Mortem

Our life circumstances are all different. We have different motivations for choosing to stay home or for choosing to work outside the home. We all have days we want to cry - because we're at home with our kids or because we can't be home with them. Why can't we just all support one another as mothers and respect individual decisions? Why do we have to try to determine whose life is more difficult or whose decision is the right or wrong one?

Laane, you sound like an amazing person who has her hands more than full. I cannot imagine how challenging things can be for you and so respect you for being with your children and caring for their needs, as special and as difficult as they may be. I would never compare my life with yours. And I would NEVER, EVER consider you the bottom side of the coin...I'm sorry you feel that way about working moms. You really shouldn't.

First of all, I hate the terms "working mom", "stay at home mom", and "full-time mom". The first two insult homemaker moms and the third insults employed moms. All moms are parents 24/7 and all moms work (though only some are employed).

I used to be an employed mom and now am a homemaker. In both, I faced criticism for my choice about employment when I was just trying to do what I felt was best for my family given our situation at the time.

Of course there are moms who are employed for purely selfish reasons but in my experience most employed moms would love to be home full- or part-time if they could afford to do so.

Should mothers stay home and take care of their kids all the time? If they are single then they have to collect welfare. If the husband works. He will need a good paying job or live as lower class or (almost) middle class. That ultimately affect what kind of education the child receive, etc, etc. Every family is different and every parent want what's best for their kids (hopefully). So if you say one is better than the other, you don't know what you're talking about.

I am an employed Mom, by choice and by necessity. It's the choice that's right for me. My best friend stays at home while her kids are small and that works for her. We both have times that we envy each other's lives and times we are glad we made the choice we did. So the other commenters are correct - each family makes a decision based on what's best for the members of that family. For anyone else to judge is ignorant. There can be no hardline on this.

I haven't read Dr Laura's book and probably will not waste my time as most of her other views are, IMHO, way off-base. However, based on the reasons I cited above, I'm thinking it's inherently wrong. How about a book "In Praise of Moms Who Work - In and/or Out of the Home".

Dr. Laura:

You come off extremely harsh to working mothers. Presently I am a half working mom/half stay at home mom. My hours at work allow me to work for the 6 hours my children are at school and be there to pick them up afterwords and be home with them after 2:00 pm. I have been a full time working mom in the past as well as a full time at home mom. I don't agree with your statements, that a mother who works is not the one that is there to show their children the ways of the world. The fact of the matter is mom is ALWAYS mom and the job she does as a mother can in fact be concentrated in less hours in the day if necessary. What counts is that as a mother, the time you spend with them is quality time wheter that is all day, half a day, or just a few hours of the day.

Most mothers that work, work FOR their children. That may seem to be a contradiction to your theories of them wanting to selfishly pursue their dream career but in reality most women who are working full time need to be.

BOTH mothers need praise and support and not this division between the two. can we please break this pattern of competition between women for once? Do it for the children.

We should, in a perfect world, support each other as mothers. In the real world, appearance counts and some mothers are extremely judgemental in both directions. I, too, have been both a stay at home mom and a working mom and I will shout from the mountain tops that stay at home moms work hard but working moms work harder. I don't think that moms who have never worked after they had a kid can even have an opinion because they have no idea what it is like. Everyone needs to stop the high-school, adult bullying that is going on and just do whatever makes you happy, or whatever you have to do for your family and children.