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How to un-spoil a child, fast?
Your child doesn’t listen to you. You make excuses for your child’s behavior. You do your child’s chores. You feel like a nag.
You repeatedly threaten, warn and count to three. You explai,n on and on, everything you ask of your child. Much of the time, parenting feels like driving an out-of-control race car.
According to psychologist and author Richard Bromfield, author of “How to unspoil your child fast,’’ these are just some of the signs that you are a parent who spoils your child.
Bromfield has an extended list of symptoms. I’m only mentioning a few.
For a working single parent, it can be a struggle at times to stay on your children about the rules. There are times when I feel like a true nag.
"Get out of the pool!"
"Pick up your crayons!"
"Brush your teeth!"
And it goes on. It can wear you down if you’re not strong.
But Bromfield offers some suggestions to unspoiling and goes into quite a bit of detail.
Grab your child’s attention, stand firm on your rules and follow through, he suggests.
After all, he asks, who made the child the head of the household? Some parents are giving in to their children way too much.
According to Bromfield, and I quote, “You’re an educated adult who’s had sex, backed into a tree and lost money on lottery tickets. She hasn’t even finished kindergarten. What does she know?’’
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Comments
The best way to 'un-spoil' your child is to have a routine that they can expect and count on. Providing a routine for your kids will teach them organization, as well as a good understanding of the hierarchy of your family. They need to know that someone is in charge, someone is making the rules, and someone is expecting them to follow the rules. Straying from the routine will confuse your children, and they will begin to make their own rules. Stick to the script!
Posted by: Ares Vista | June 22, 2009 11:54 AM