Frustrated with Facebook
I log on to Facebook every day, but I don't know why.
Occasionally I learn a tidbit of gossip about my friends. But for the most part, I read a boring list of things they are doing that day, such as "sitting at son's baseball game" or "doing daughter's camp laundry." Or I get to see friends inviting each other to lunch or read about the parties I wasn't invited to.
Apparently I'm not the only one feeling frustrated. People across the country are rebelling; one guy is selling T-shirts that say "Shut Your Facebook."
People have an assortment of reasons for closing their accounts. They say it made them confused about who their friends were; they felt like they were wasting time in a non-productive activity; they felt like voyeurs, or at the other end, like they were being stalked.
I'm not planning to close up my account any time soon. But I have promised myself I will open it up less frequently (only once a day, I swear!).

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Comments
Instead of checking Facebook, I created a website for parents to find things to do with their kids. Get off Facebook, log onto www.MyKidsCounty.org and find something local to do!
Posted by: Rachael Baldassarra | September 9, 2009 12:32 PM
Well, the truth of the matter is, Facebook was not intended for all these old people that have flocked to it. That totally ruined it for me. When Aunt so-and-so, and Uncle whatever wanted to be my "friends" it was GAME OVER for me. I had to go back to Myspace to get away from all the oldies.
Posted by: Delightful_Girl | September 9, 2009 12:57 PM
Delightful_Girl, did you know MySpace was FOUNDED for "oldies?" It originated as a business networking site until teenagers decided it belonged to them. "Social Networking" has no age limit - and one day, God willing, you will be an old person too. Will YOU give up your social networking then???
Posted by: JLT | September 9, 2009 2:31 PM
As I see it, there is not a problem with Facebook. The problem is with your friends! Apparently you have some boring friends! Just because your friends do not have anything interesting to say or feel compelled to talk about the mundane and boring details of their lives does not mean that is everyone's experience. Not all friends are the same.
I use facebook for different reasons. One reason is to stay in touch with friends and acquaintances who live far away (so I don't see them very often). It between infrequent phone calls I can keep up to date on what is going on in their lives and even see pictures that they post online of themselves and their families. Occasionally some of my friends post some mundane details of their lives, but its easy enough to gloss over that and read the interesting posts.
But the main reason I am on there is for shear entertainment purposes because some of my friends are hysterical and following their Facebook pages makes for great comedy.
There are several types of "Friends" I have on Facebook. Some are actual friends I have known for a long time. Some are family. Some are friends of friends.
But there is a certain segment of my Facebook "Friends" who I only really know because of Facebook and I have no other interaction with them. A few of this type of "friends" I just met recently at my kids' after-school class. I really did not know them before interacting with them on Facebook. Now, several of my other Facebook friends are friends of these friends -- whom I've never met. I often literally laugh out loud reading the postings and I am a regular contributor. These "friends", like me, have a twisted sense of humor and a sarcastic wit.. which makes for great comedy following their Facebook pages.
So, the moral of this story is that Facebook is only as interesting as your friends. If your Facebook experience is boring, maybe its time for some new friends!
Posted by: Joe | September 9, 2009 2:50 PM
Lois,
FB can turn into a forced habit. I check it 1-2 times a day now, mainly to see if anybody has responded to my quotes. I use it mainly for network marketing these days.
RB
Posted by: Ryan Biddulph | September 9, 2009 6:41 PM
I banned my coworkers and in town friend from joining my friends list on Facebook. I told them I didn't want Facebook to replace Happy Hour and other group time on the weekends. So far, it has worked. I only use Facebook to see new family pictures and give friends from out of town a heads up when I come to their neck of the woods to visit.
Posted by: Chris | September 9, 2009 8:36 PM
Yeah old people eat white bread. I don't eat white bread no more, sooo uncool. Sheesh.
Posted by: Wally | September 9, 2009 10:00 PM
and how can you be friends with people you've never met? Pen friends maybe, but not real friends.
Posted by: Wally | September 9, 2009 10:03 PM
I remember when Facebook was for college only, now I have friends whose parents always question their status and other information,
Posted by: John | September 10, 2009 3:20 AM
Delightful Girl, boy is that name misleading. When you finally "grow up" will you no longer go onto FB because you are an oldie???
Posted by: Dag | September 10, 2009 7:42 AM
JLT, seeing old people on Facebook and Myspace is the equivelent of having your parents at the sock-hop or whatever dippy thing old people like you did as teeneagers. Did you really want your parents at the sock-hop or the dinosaur races? Of course not. The oldies should have THEIR own geriatric version of Facebook.
Posted by: Delightful_Girl | September 10, 2009 11:29 AM
Delightful_Girl, you are a spoiled brat, but hilarious. "Sock hop?" "Dinosaur races?" Good ones.
Posted by: Seymore | September 10, 2009 2:35 PM