Anita Tedaldi adopted a baby boy, but it didn't work out -- she couldn't bond with him. So another family took him off her hands.

That's the headline, the thing that has everyone buzzing. She wrote about her experience on the New York Times' Motherlode blog and appeared on the Today show on Thursday.

It's really easy to judge Anita: heartless, for starters. How about selfish. Intolerant. Probably just plain mean.

But this is a woman with five biological daughters, who parents alone when her military husband is deployed. She clearly does not shy away from motherhood. Maybe she wasn't completely prepared. But she had to know about colic and sleepless nights and worse. She knew that adopting a baby who had been left by the side of a South American road would come with some baggage.

Anita will be a punching bag for a few news cycles. Her motives will be questioned. Why did she need another child? And why on earth did she have to write about it? Was this some kind of grand publicity stunt to promote her own blog?

But why wouldn't she talk about it? We are in a self-confessional age in which everyone purges their transgressions on the Internet, and we all pile on. It's our new national sport.

I think the bigger question to ponder is not why she did what she did. But what would you do?