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Where are the brother's keepers?

A Coral Springs teen is accused in the stabbing death of his younger brother.

This mind-boggler comes nearly two weeks after five Deerfield Beach boys were arrested in connection with the burning of a 15-year-old schoolmate.

Who's watching our boys? Fellow blogger Gretchen Day-Bryant talked with a Harvard clinical psychologist about the disconnect between society and boy's development.

A Miami Herald story confirmed what many of us assumed in the case of the Deerfield Beach incident: the boys came from troubled family lives.

Decent people have emerged from wretched childhoods. So what's different now? Better yet, what can you commit to doing starting today to intervene in a young boy's life?

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Coral Springs is saturated with rude, no boundaries, attitudinal, lawless, drug dealing low lifes. I was shocked by how low, low can go when I naively moved there several years ago from a nice, conservative town up north. CS appeared to be the greatest place, it turned out to be nightmare with the most horrific neighbors one could ask for. Don't invest your money in CS. Huge mistake. Drugs abound and no one does anything about it. You can't change that kind of society nor is their a quick fix for the un-evolved. The thirty/forty something parents are worse than their kids. You just have to leave them to themselves.

I agree Christine. Coral Springs didn't used to be like that though. It was an upscale community when I was a kid and you only heard good things about it. Now its overcrowded and the kids have nowhere to go for fun. It's ridiculous. I grew up in South Florida (Deerfield Beach) and left in 2005. Now I'm in a great small town in Northeast Ohio. I couldn't be more happier with where I live. Sure I miss my friends and family, but with kids you gotta do what you gotta do.

you can't watch them every minute - get real. typical whining

This is beyond whining, Pete. We have serious issues happening with our kids. If you have an approach that you think has worked to keep a boy on the straight and narrow, please share.

Well, this is South Florida. People divorce constantly and there are no personal or family values. Yes, I can see that young people would be bored to death in the area. I am bored to death in South Florida. Probably another case of children being left along too much of the time without an adult who actually cares or gives a damn.

Well, this is South Florida. People divorce constantly and there are no personal or family values. Yes, I can see that young people would be bored to death in the area. I am bored to death in South Florida. Probably another case of children being left along too much of the time without an adult who actually cares or gives a damn.

One thing I see us lacking in this society is coming of age ceremonies. Teenagers just seem to "roll" into adulthood, sexuality, college, etc. by accident with no real public acknowledgement of their responsibilities that come with growing up.

In the Jewish community for example, there are bar/bat mitzvah ceremonies. Other cultures send their youth on special quests when they enter adulthood. Perhaps it's time to bring back these rituals to modern American society.

TRincon, coming-of-age ceremonies are a great vehicle for helping children transition into proper adult behavior. Thanks for the suggestion.

I live in Coral Springs, and it seems to me that a lot of bad things never show up in the news or papers when it happens in C.S. God forbid it might tarnish the image of this wonderful city! (not) Anyway, I am so sick over this sad situation. I have 2 boys myself, and they have had fights themselves, and this could very well have happened to my family! I think the cure is to take every computer in the house and get rid of them. Unfortunately, we live in a world where both parents must work, and kids are left alone and unsupervised from a very young age, and what do they do, play on the computer all day long. My thoughts and prayers are with this family at this time.

It is a shame that this is turning into a Coral Springs "bashing"as well as a bashing of the family. Unfortunately, this DOES happen, and not just in Coral Springs. Parents have to work, and these boys were of the legal age to be left alone. What is important now is to keep this familiy in your thoughts and prayers.

I can not believe what I have just read, this had nothing to do with the city these boys live in or the fact that they are being raised by a single dad, or a computer. (oh my gosh), lets take the Wii, the TV's the stereos and everything else out of the house. What a moronic thing to say. Guess what, I had three brothers, they fought, its called sibling rivalry, I also have two children. It's a normal part of growing up. What we need are parents that take an interest in their children. But if they have to be a single father or mother do not hold that against them. I know these boys, they are wonderful, caring boys, nothing about what has happened makes any sense.

I don't know what part of Coral Springs you have been to Christinedaae but I have not seen anything different then in any other city in South Florida or Ohio, AnnieM. (by the way I was born in Ohio) and they have drugs and violence there too.

There is nothing wrong with a "Coming of Age Ceremony such as Bar or Bat Mitzvah but do you really think that will solve all the problems that we have with the youth of today. No it will not.

Do not judge what you do not know. Keep your stupid inconsiderate comments to yourself, unles you know what you are talking about.

PLEASE TAKE THIS OFF.....ITS BAD ENOUGH FOR PEOPLE TO SAY THINGS AT A TIME LIKE THIS WHEN THEY HAVE NO CLUE OR EVEN RIGHT TO PUBLISH......ITS PEOPLE LIKE U THAT GET INTO PEOPLES PERSONAL LIFE AND RIPPPPPPP THEM FURTHER APART FROM THERE FAMILY

It is no matter what the parents fault for closing their eyes on behavioral issues.....we all have to do what we have to do - single parents, work, but always let the children know you are on top of them and be there for them is a 1st priority. I am a working single parent, and you can be rest assured, I am always aware of where my child is.......he knows it too.....Children need boundaries and attention- always!

Coral Springs is a city in serious decline, why do you think Broward County made it a RDA! Why do you think that that so many Coral Springs families are moving into Parkland-Tamarac and Coconut Creek and telling thre new neighboors how happy they are to have "gotten" their families out!Besides the well know drug and gang issues, look at the way the children talk and dress there(pants to knees, talking ghetto etc).

Someone hit the nail on the head when they said there is nothing in CS for the kids to do. The mayor needs to also look at some kind of recreational place for teens and pre teens to go. My children are students and Coral Springs residents and the schools are pulling all the extra curricular activities due to no $. Boredom breeds trouble.

I love all the "experts" who add their two cents whenever something like this happens. Much of what everyone said here is true about the kids not having enough activities, and drug use, and gangs, etc. Butthese things happen in any city in any state. Typically however, what do ALL these things have in common? Uninformed, uncaring, clueless parents (single or otherwise) who let their kids be in charge and do what they want. What the country (including S. Florida towns) needs is a huge dose of discipline and values and stop worrying about hurting the kids feelings, etc. It doesnt take anything for someone to have a child, but it takes responsibility and attention, and logic to be a PARENT. We need to all become better parents so our kids have good role models and guidance for their future. its SO easy to be a lazy parent, but you see the results when you are. Kids need discipline and guidance, not " a leash to hang themselves with". Tighten the reigns parents!

I love all the "experts" who add their two cents whenever something like this happens. Much of what everyone said here is true about the kids not having enough activities, and drug use, and gangs, etc. Butthese things happen in any city in any state. Typically however, what do ALL these things have in common? Uninformed, uncaring, clueless parents (single or otherwise) who let their kids be in charge and do what they want. What the country (including S. Florida towns) needs is a huge dose of discipline and values and stop worrying about hurting the kids feelings, etc. It doesnt take anything for someone to have a child, but it takes responsibility and attention, and logic to be a PARENT. We need to all become better parents so our kids have good role models and guidance for their future. its SO easy to be a lazy parent, but you see the results when you are. Kids need discipline and guidance, not " a leash to hang themselves with". Tighten the reigns parents!

Our grandparents had confidence in their own moral standards, consequently, they enforced those standards without compromise or guilt. Not so today. Today when our children confront us, and contemporary psycho babble supports them, we either hesitate or retreat. You can't do that with a 1 year old much less a teenager. When parents regain their confidence in what right and wrong are, then they will enforce the kind of morality on their children that they need and, inspite of their protestaions, want, and will thank you for it when they are grown.

Our grandparents had confidence in their own moral standards, consequently, they enforced those standards without compromise or guilt. Not so today. Today when our children confront us, and contemporary psycho babble supports them, we either hesitate or retreat. You can't do that with a 1 year old much less a teenager. When parents regain their confidence in what right and wrong are, then they will enforce the kind of morality on their children that they need and, inspite of their protestaions, want, and will thank you for it when they are grown.

Our grandparents had confidence in their own moral standards, consequently, they enforced those standards without compromise or guilt. Not so today. Today when our children confront us, and contemporary psycho babble supports them, we either hesitate or retreat. You can't do that with a 1 year old much less a teenager. When parents regain their confidence in what right and wrong is, then they will enforce the kind of morality on their children that they need and, inspite of their protestaions, want, and will thank you for it when they are grown.

Parenting classes would be nice but no one wants to go..laziness is common. You also have parents who think it's cool for their kids to follow in their "thug" lifestyle and you won't be able to do anything about that.

My suggestion, to get started, is to have mentors (big brothers). People who are willing to show these kids that they can do better and expect them to do better. The parents usually have no goals for these kids other than to get them grown to 18-- alive. If you expect nothing from these kids, they will give it to you.

It is really amazing to see all of the "experts" and their suggestions.
I agree with the family member who posted... GET OVER IT!! Keep your opinions to yourselves and think about this family and what they are going through!!!! Right now they need support and prayers!!

Listen, I am an educator, and the biggest problem I see with the parent/child relationship is that parents want to be FRIENDS not parents. That's why the youth of today have no values and boundaries. I also spend more time on manners and responsibility than I do on my subject matter.
The sad reality is that 95% of what happens in Coral Springs is NOT in the papers. It's time for parents to take charge of their children, so a tragedy like this does not happen ever again.

I am shocked over what people think it is ok to say in the face of such tragedy. You obviously did not know this family. They were good boys, they had a good parent raising them, and they lived in a good neighborhood. This is a senseless tragedy that William and his family will have to try to understand for the rest of their lives. Blaming his family solves nothing. Coral Springs may not be perfect, but what US city is nowadays. I have taught the most amazing Coral Springs students - including these two boys -and your opinions about this community do nothing to help us understand this tragedy. Please keep your thoughts and prayers with the family at this time, and leave your negative comments to yourself.

Let see, First of all I'm an old gesser from the 60, now on to the crap, our legal system is garbage, you can't trust a cop (except that he may be in jail before yur case comes up), they'll rip you off, broward officials are ready to leave town on fed investagations, We have sherifs that go to jail just to step into high paying so call special jobs when they get out after a year, and you really think the kids are out of control? They have no use for this completely insane world you have made. You are a lost cause!!!!!!!!!

The problem lies with single and married parents. Kids see one or both of their parents behaving badly and getting away with it and then they do the same. The mentality to lie/cheat/steal to get what you want is then passed down to the children. The 30's adults were raised in an affluent economy and don't have any experience in doing without and/or doing for someone else. They teach this lack of empathy to their kids and here we are.

Normal kids do not kill. Period. Instead of talking about the cities, games and boredom. We should be asking why so many kids today think nothing of taking a life.

Patches is ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. There is nothing in CS for the kids to do. The mayor needs to look at some kind of recreational place for teens and pre teens to go. My children are also students and Coral Springs residents and the schools are pulling all the extra curricular activities due to no $. Just because they are teens doesn't mean that they don't need an after school program or sport activity until their parent(s) can pick them up. Florida's law of allowing kids 12 and over to stay at home alone is WRONG! When is the State going to realize that it takes more than parents to raise children in this corrupted world!?

Patches is ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. There is nothing in CS for the kids to do. The mayor needs to look at some kind of recreational place for teens and pre teens to go. My children are also students and Coral Springs residents and the schools are pulling all the extra curricular activities due to no $. Just because they are teens doesn't mean that they don't need an after school program or sport activity until their parent(s) can pick them up. Florida's law of allowing kids 12 and over to stay at home alone is WRONG! When is the State going to realize that it takes more than parents to raise children in this corrupted world!?

Patches is ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. There is nothing in CS for the kids to do. The mayor needs to look at some kind of recreational place for teens and pre teens to go. The schools are pulling all the extra curricular activities due to no $. Just because they are teens doesn't mean that they don't need an after school program or sport activity until their parent(s) can pick them up. Florida's law of allowing kids 12 and over to stay at home alone is WRONG! When is the State going to realize that it takes more than parents to raise children in this corrupted world!?

i can remember when you said you live in coral springs my god people would look at you and say how did you end up in the springs(thats when it was quiet) used to be great place to raise kids but no more,just like the rest of florida let's open another door so undocumented can come in faster.it is a shame how it has just gotten out of control.i don't even know my neighbors anymore all new and no one even says hello,goodday of even f you

this is a terrible tragedy for this family...one child has died and another is in jail for killing his brother. This family lost TWO children. Please people remember the heartache that this has caused all their family and friends. Be compassionate with your comments and do not judge...pray for the family.

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