Dear Nan,
I am writing because I don't understand how to handle a situation about my five-year old daughter, Amber. Starting about six months ago, every time she is visiting with someone else, like spending the weekend with my parents or my husband's parents, I am almost in a panic that something is going to happen to her. My friends tell me I am over-protective and that I need to let go. I know it's irrational, but I can't change how I feel. Can you please help me?
Thanks,
Joanna
Dear Joanna,
As a mom of four myself, I understand how your heart can feel conflicted when your child is away from you. However, the level of fear you are experiencing, and your awareness that the feeling is irrational, does seem to be something beyond a typical mother's concern for her child.
I disagree your feelings are a result of being over-protective. My sense is that you and Amber have experienced being mother and daughter before, and that in your prior lifetime something happened to Amber when she was not with you. The fact that this fear only began a short time ago relates to the age at which it happened in the past lifetime. It's as if your soul has drawn a correlation between being a mom to Amber and the trauma of what happened to her before. Your soul is trying to warn you of harm; the problem is, the harm is behind you and not ahead of you.
Knowing that this sense of impending disaster is rooted in a past-life experience may help you by giving you a logical reason for your feelings, an alternative to the belief this is a premonition of harm to come. It would also be helpful for you to prayerfully ask that what is behind you stays behind you; and that you be free to embrace and enjoy the experience of being a parent to your daughter in this lifetime, since you did not have the opportunity to do so before. Once your soul sees that Amber is healthy beyond the age of her past-life trauma, that should also calm down some of the fears.
Sometimes, looking behind you clearly can give you clarity looking forward!
Nan
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Checkpoint: When we experience irrational fears in a lifetime and cannot point to a reason why we have them, it's a strong bet that the root cause is found in a past lifetime event. The fears can be about others, such as Joanna's feelings about her daughter, or they can be for ourselves. For example, a person who drowns traumatically in one lifetime may be afraid to swim in the next. A person who has died from falling off a cliff may be afraid of heights, or even specifically avoid mountains or cliffs, even if being in situations around other heights is ok.Why does this happen? The soul is trying to protect you from harm, not interfere with your ability to function in this world. It is saying, in effect, "Don't do that! Remember what happened the last time? Stay away! Stay away!" which is intended to help you. The problem is, we do not have a conscious awareness of the prior situation, so we are left with the strong feeling of "don't" or "fear" without knowing why, and that only creates more problems!
We all have things that invoke fear in us, but when the fear is irrational and specific - and when it is so intense it gets in the way of how we function or relate in this lifetime - then a past trauma is often the reason. Through prayer, meditation, and the conscious awareness of the source of the fear, you can do a lot to reduce and even eliminate the irrational block in this lifetime. Be proactive and work toward reprogramming the message, vested in the now and not in the past.
Until tomorrow, I am
Intuitively Yours,
Nan O'Brien
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